Do you want to get back your self-confidence?
Did you stop believing in yourself? Have you stopped loving yourself? Do you feel damaged, down, and depressed?
Did you have a negative personal experience or relationship? Are you overweight or feel in competition with someone else?
There are many things that can lead you to feel poorly about yourself. But if this is how you feel, you must pull yourself out of this.
Tips to Get Your Self-Confidence Back
Define Why You Feel This Way
Defining what may have caused you to feel this way and saying it out loud will help you mentally get past this. Maybe it's several things that have triggered you to feel this way. State them. Write them down.
If it's linked to how a certain person made you feel, let their mean-self be forgiven. This person has issues because they cut people down instead of bringing them up. You know better than to believe their destructive nonsense.
Ask yourself why you are letting this continue to rule your life. It was never true. It was cruel. It is in the past. You have let it hold you back long enough. Will you let it go? To be free and love yourself again, you must let it go.
Remember Back to A Time When You Loved Yourself
It felt good, right? You were happy. You smiled more. You walked with your head held high. How can you get back there? What do you need to leave behind to move forward? Do you need to challenge yourself to change? Then do it!
"You deserve to love who you are!" read that 10 times if you need to. You try your best. You make mistakes. You are loyal. You are beautiful as you are. You don't have to impress people. You have every right to smile all day long. You deserve to have bad days. You deserve fun. You deserve love. You deserve to love your body at all stages. You have wonderful qualities. You have habits to improve on. You are not perfect. You are loved. You have a lot of love to give. You are good to people. Your gifts are special. You don't need anyone else to tell you. You must love and believe in who you are to be your happiest.
Give Yourself Grace
Why don't we feel that we deserve grace? It kills our self-confidence when we don't. When we tell ourselves positive things even when things go wrong, we can feel our best even in not-so-good situations. We lift ourselves up, instead of tearing ourselves down. We can't do this to ourselves anymore. Give yourself grace!
It can be hard work. You are worth the work. Hard work always pays off. You deserve to dream big. Stay positive because you need that mental boost! Read this post for encouragement!
Turn off the Negativity or Drop it (Them) Off at the Next Bus Station
I determined a long time ago, to turn off the negativity or drop it (them) off at the next bus station. LOL!
Yes, there are certain situations that can make you feel negative. My advice is to walk away from it and think about what you've learned. You can learn something new from every situation you are in. When we learn, we grow. Growing is good!
Sometimes people are the problem. Some people are not good for your health. They can bring you down, be unsupportive, talk negatively, and some don't even realize that they are doing it. It's incredible!
I've learned it may even be family or a so-called friend. It's okay to stay away. It's okay to not go or not to attend a function. It's okay to be honest. It's okay to say no. It's okay to drop them off at the next bus station—And don't look back. Lingering on with this negative relationship has no benefits to you at all.
It was best for my sanity and my self-confidence! You'll find the same.
Stop Putting Yourself Second (Third, fourth, or fifth)
Once and for all, put yourself first. Even if you have children and a spouse you deserve to put your happiness and health first. Your spouse, friends, and family members should support that and help you.
Start asking for help from those who support you. I'm sure you support them when they ask for necessary time or favors. Right? Ask for your own time. Take your own time. Do things you love. Never look at that as selfish or that you can't do nice things for yourself because of guilt.
You deserve to live happy. It's time to take action, pull yourself up, ask for help if needed, and get your self-confidence back.
I know you can do it.
I am Sabrina, with Curly Girl Fitness. We are a fitness apparel line, check us out! It's important that I write to you about health and fitness topics because it's important to share experiences and tips and to learn from each other. I've lived these topics or people close to me have lived them. And one thing that I know for sure is we don't give ourselves enough grace (do honor or credit to).
Take action for yourself today. Go and get your self-confidence back.
What part of today's blog resonates with you? I would love to hear your story.